Following are excerpts of Dharma talks on "Letters to a suicide bomber" given by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh and letters written by practitioners and published in his book Mindfulness
How can we apply these teachings on compassion?
You may like to write a letter to a young man who is about to commit suicide in your country, or in
As a practitioner, as a dharma teacher, as a poet, you can write that young man a letter, the way Rainer Maria Rilke wrote a letter to a young poet. We can write a letter to the young terrorist, because he entertains ideas that make him suffer and make others suffer.
I learned that the young terrorists, they don't like to be called terrorists. They prefer the term 'suicide bombers'. You can, as a British citizen, as an American citizen, write him a letter - from your own practice, your own liberation. People in your countries still entertain ideas concerning peace, safety, and terrorism. Because we continue to entertain these ideas, we support violence and terror.
The practice is to recognize the notions that have led to fear, to terror -- to remove all these notions in order for us to be understanding, to be compassionate, and to help other people to be understanding, to be compassionate at the same time.
You may begin like this:
"Dear Friend, I know you don't want to be called a terrorist, although many people are calling you a terrorist. You prefer to be called a suicide bomber. You may think that you are acting in the name of justice, in the name of God, of Allah. You think that you are doing the right thing.
"You believe that there are people who want to destroy your religion, your nation, your way of life. That is why you believe that your act is an act in the good direction. You punish the evil people, the enemies of Allah, of God. And you are certain that as a reward you'll be welcomed right away to the
"In my country there are people who believe that way, too. They believe they have to go to your country and find young people like you to kill -- to kill like that for the sake of safety and peace, to kill like that in service to God.
"We all are caught in our wrong views. In the past I have entertained wrong views like that. But I have practiced, and that is why I've been able to transform these wrong views. I'm able to understand myself better. I feel that I understand you and the people in my country, including the ones who commit suicide every day."
Maybe there are a few dozens of us who would like to write a letter from our own insight, from our own liberation. We may combine all these letters into a collective letter that could be read not only by the young people who are going to die and to make people die tomorrow and the day after tomorrow in the Middle East, but also in our own country. Many young people entertain ideas and notions that are at the foundation of their despair, their anger, their craving. They suffer and they continue to make other people suffer, including their parents and their society.
No matter where we live, in
The letter is a form of dialogue; the aim is to help each other remove wrong perceptions that have been there a long time. So this is a very deep practice.
I heard about you from a friend. She said you lost your husband and your son. Your grief and despair were so great you no longer wanted to live. You wanted to die and you wanted the people who hurt you so deeply and destroyed your family to suffer in the same way that they made you suffer. So you made the only decision you could - that your last action would be as a suicide bomber. And now you are gone - taking others with you. And all the grief, despair, hopelessness, and powerlessness you felt when you made your decision continue to spread out into more and more people's lives.
Oh, how I wish I knew you - had been there with you when your husband and little boy died. How I wish I had been there to hold you, to comfort you, to help you to hold all your pain that was too much for one person to hold alone. How I wish I was there talking to you, letting you know you are not alone, and that even though this pain and grief are so intense and consuming, life can go on. The pain can be transformed - it will change. And the anger and hatred can be released in a different way. In a way that can put an end to suffering, instead of creating more suffering for others and for ourselves.
I also have known such pain and despair. My family - grandmother, aunts, uncles, cousins, altogether maybe twenty-five people - were killed in a war before I was even born. My father somehow survived, and somehow continued his life. And I was born. How grateful I am to him, that he didn't kill himself! All my life I missed my roots, my family so much, without even knowing them. And there was deep despair in my heart - without even being able to name it.
How I wish I were there to tell you - let us do this together, let us hold this pain and despair together, and find a way to continue living. Find a way to live that can really heal this suffering which is not just ours, but all humans. Together learn to see what the true source of this suffering is.
I know if I grew up as you did and had the same experiences, I also could do the same as you did. And if you had some of my childhood and experiences you could be alive now. And you could say this to me - Dear Friend, people are not the enemy. It is the hatred, anger, and pain that we do not know how to handle that is the enemy, that tortures us and hurts us the most. You are not alone in this. For generation upon generation we humans have continued to try to heal our pain by inflicting more pain on others. And so it continues until now.
But what if someone in your family had been able to find another way to heal their pain, to find a way of understanding and being with the pain that could transform it to compassion and ? Then you would have a different chance in your life. And what if you were that person in your family? And instead of being a suicide bomber, you and I together explored, learned, practiced, and found another way? Then you would still be alive now, and you would perhaps have more and teach them how to handle their pain so that compassion and love could be born. Together we could spread this understanding, compassion, and love out into more and more people's lives. And maybe one day, there would be peace on this earth, peace in our hearts, and we could be truly happy.
Oh, how I wish I were there with you, dear friend.
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